swings in life

RISE AND FALL DEFFERENT SIDES OF THE SAME COIN.

Falling in life is on most occasions a blessing for the simple reason that each fall will be followed by a rise and you become wiser after each fall in life. Recent upheavals in the share market too had taken its own toll on so many youngsters; some even went for the extreme of ending life out of fear for the liabilities as a result of the sharp fall in shares. The ultimate truth is that whatever is the amount liabilities one can surely make up later in life through more prudent investment and becoming more disciplined to face the adverse situations in life.

When you hit the bottom you can feel relaxed for, you are only bound to go upwards and the worst is over. This should be the mantra for ones life. Rise and falls are inevitable in ones life. The most important aspect should be not to panic or lose control and never ever be remorseful for the past. Look and take stock of the situation to evaluate the loss in terms of money, assets and most often you will also be losing quite a few relationships as a result. All the losses can be made up again if one is able concentrate and remain focused on the next opportunity, which is bound to come your way again.

I have always thought about the people who give up life because they are unable to bear the loss of money, relationships, or what ever is the reason behind for some to take such extreme step. It is actually being silly. All they need is an assurance from with in them and not repeat the same mistake again. You must deliberately take your mind off the subject and should not be remorseful for the simple reason that you can’t change the past either way so better forget, concentrate on what you are good at. In ninety nine cases out of one hundred you can observe that it was foolish for those, who does take such extreme steps, as time, is the biggest healer and also helps you bury the past and go ahead in a new path resulting in positive growth of any individual. I feel our youngsters must be taught early in their life to take and absorb equally any negative or positive impacts which comes in way of all living beings with the same dignity and self-respect. One should be prepared mentally to face all such situations in life without much emotion, anger, or fallibility. Such balanced approach is the most viable and honorable solution when faced with glory or defeat. One should be able to absorb any such shock with dignity and calmness; it is possible for all human beings to learn about the trick of controlling our emotions and the balancing acts. A cool individual is the one who is not affected much by the success or failures in life and still manages to keep his cool and character, the same, in adversities and good times equally.




The frail character of some youngsters was disturbing as they are unable to cope with adversities such as rejection in job or employment opportunities and the failure in Exams etc. these traits could have been avoided had they been taught in younger years about the possibilities of failures and the importance of not losing control of oneself even in the worst scenarios. Lack of will power and presence of mind some times may prove to be the ultimate road block to success. The feeling of helplessness of our younger generation is due to the feeling that all is lost and in reality on most such occasions we can see with hindsight that all was not lost. On most occasions they end up in better and more rewarding careers than the one they lost early. There are numerous instances when I was not selected for a job only to end up in a better job much later, which I thought was not possible earlier. Rejection at times may prove to be the best thing to have happened in ones life when you look back. The story about a businessman who had sought for a deal and have followed after the same for years and at last just when he got the deal in his favour he was so excited and some how missed the plane which was supposed to take him abroad, to seal the deal. Missing the plane meant missing out on the deal itself as the deadline was over by then. In his disappointment he cursed all and sundry which included his wife who had delayed while packing his suitcase. The next day he read in the news that the plane in which he was supposed to go had crash-landed killing all those unfortunate passengers. That was the moment when he realized that missing the plane was an act of god and has saved his life. We all can cite such stories to boost the youngster’s confidence level.

They are more vulnerable in present times due to the cut throat competitions faced in life as the opportunities are much far lesser that the requirement of employment in our country. This has resulted in frustration and depression among our youngsters and directly affects their young minds to go wayward in life out of sheer lack of good employment opportunities. The numbers of youngsters joining in insurgency and terrorism in majority are actually unemployed and frustrated youngsters. The willingness not to accept menial jobs, which comes their way firsts also may be one reason. The dignity of labour should be highlighted. Disappointments and rejections are very common and should not be allowed to make us lose our mind over it. Instead we must be better prepared on next occasion and also make sure that we don’t repeat the same mistake a second time. If you take the most successful among our populace we all can see that each and every one among them have actually failed at least once or more occasions in their respective lives. Come back stories are also so common that we can see that so many of them had fallen only to rise again more powerful and wise. You may recall the case of Amitab Bachan who had actually hit rock bottom and have made again from ashes. One can cite hundreds of stories which are similar. Never give up on life try again and again till you succeed.



Today what seems to be impossible may actually be possible later. Time has a cute way of making people realize how stupid they were in hindsight. Every set back in life should be taken as a lesson well learned. Like wise every success in life does not last long for the cycle of events takes people for a ride turning rich in to poor and vice verse overnight. To be able to stand upright and wade through all the turmoil’s in life and still remain unscathed is the real man with character and deserves to be appreciated.