MOTHER, WIFE AND DAUGHTER

All human beings born in this world is born to a mother, as a result of loving parents who is the first contact of any child. Mothers are the symbol of love, affection and care and go through months of carriage ending with painful delivery, immediately afterwards she starts to feed the child and is the first teacher or guru of the child teaching how to talk walk and speak till the time, when a child become a boy or a girl who can independently take care of his or her needs.

Likewise, when a child grows up, in normal circumstances, starts a family and has a companion to live with while sharing love, thoughts and inputs to take them through the journey of life together in good and bad times. In life if we look deeper the role of mothers and wives are much harder and if the women concerned is employed then it is very taxing on them both physically and mentally and makes it all the more difficult while, men are seldom equipped to deal with such demanding schedule, which only a women does it most honorably and is amazing to see their patience while dealing in the domestic and official roles to be played or lived. On most occasions joint family mechanism has its positive role when it comes to rearing children their grant parents are mostly at ease taking care of their grandchildren and in normal cases they communicate well between them thus making it slightly easier for working women. Women in nuclear families find it harder to allocate time for her job and most importantly her family.

It is a thankless job and women take the brunt of hardships without complaining. They in fact go through hell if the man or her husband is naïve towards her hardships and acts selfish. Men are by nature stronger and when the intention is good can contribute a lot in seeing the work is shared at home or can at least be an understanding soul, thereby being more patient towards his better half and can be more sympathetic towards women under stress. For some it may seem to be an easy task but if one is able to grasp and analyze the usual days work minutely one can see that a woman’s job though menial in nature and may look easier, in real is stressful and most time consuming .The pent up stress at times may erupt like a volcano, which is normally the result of stress and never ending hard work which is routine in a family with children. Men instead of under standing the root cause or reason behind reacts roughly making it from bad to worse.

When a couple starts their family life a man can actually see the part of wives’ role as more tougher and to make things more complicated , is the fact that women normally are the ones married of to a different family and has to start all over new in a different family and the circumstances also becomes new and the problem of the acclimatizing to different people from what she has been living with while being with her parents is suddenly changed and see herself among total strangers in most cases and endures silently for the sake of the family. If the woman is employed as well then it becomes all the more hard and difficult. They have to wakeup so early to prepare food for the morning and afternoon before she goes to work and usually comes back very tired only to see that the cleaning and cooking chores is never ending adding to the need of tuition and helping their children with their studies and homework, again to be followed by the need for dinner, dishwashing etc; For some the release of the accumulated stress by way of shouting can result in dangerous consequences if the husband is a rough guy or may not be a ‘gentle’man and might actually hurt the helpless wife supported by her in-laws who waits for such situations to get even with the intruder who is the ‘bahu’[daughter-in-law] in India. We all may at times experience the outbursts of the women in the house but seldom think of the reason behind or refuse to accept the tough job of mother hood and the pent up or suppressed feelings as a result of long and hard life. The most common causes of quarrel may be complaint about the quality of the food or the delay in serving etc; such trivial matters at times may end up to serious differences and actually can be avoided with little effort and reasoning by men.

Gender wise the woman of the species is far more superior to men and deserves to be appreciated and revered. I respect them and am convinced that their contribution for a harmonious family life is far more important and can not be replaced, if one wants to bring up children as responsible citizens with compassion for humanity as a whole.

The most disturbing news for me in recent times has been the alarming rate of female infanticide and the gender violence and cruelty against women. For a true warrior it is a shame to fight someone who is weaker. A brave man is the one who concur the mighty, not someone who unleashes his power towards a weak women. I am with our countries’ women folks in their fight against cruelty and male atrocities against women. I hope and pray that our land respects women and consider female child as a blessing. I have seen most mothers in their old age like to be with their daughters rather than their daughter in laws. Those people who destroy female fetuses may actually suffer in their old age with no one around to take care of them. Tough laws against such sinful acts are the need of the hour. The doctor who helps in female infanticide should be dealt with firmly and sufficient laws should be enacted if it is not in place already. That alone and so many other measures has to be undertaken to check such practices in our country especially in Hariyana and Punjab where, the bridegrooms are already searching for brides in neighboring states due to the ratio in those states is less number of girls to the number of boys.


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